In all situations ask: what would a toddler do?

Posts tagged ‘preschool’

All the time in the world

Adults have schedules, deadlines, appointments & meetings. Adults have watches on their wrists, on their walls, on their phones, in their cars and in their heads. Adults seem to have less and less time as they keep watch more and more. While adults are busy and rushed, toddlers have all the time in the world.

Toddlers might have watches but they don’t look at them. Toddlers might have clocks in their kitchens and bedrooms, but they don’t notice them. Parents and siblings might even try to have toddlers notice the time. And they can try all they want, but toddlers won’t notice, because they have all the time in the world.

Like most parents and adults, we have schedules, meetings and clocks. Like all toddlers, Maayan couldn’t care less.

Sometimes in the mornings if we’re running a little late for Maayan’s preschool, we try to get Maayan to get ready quicker. We say things like, “Come on Maayan, you don’t want to be late.” Or “If we leave in a few minutes you’ll have more time at preschool.” Maayan listens, but she is in no rush. She takes her time, does what she needs to do in a calm and collected way. Maayan, like royalty, is totally together with what she needs to do to be her best self everyday.

In any situation if we’re running a little late, Maayan is never phased to hurry up. Time seems to be a reality only to adults. Toddlers seem to be entirely unaware of time, and that seems to work in their favor.

While adults have quotes to help them stop and smell the flowers, toddlers are smelling them all the time. Oblivious to time, toddlers are calm, happy and enjoy their lives.

Because Maayan can’t be rushed, in the moments where I would be – I can’t be. I can’t rush because Maayan can’t be rushed. In those moments, I stop realizing the time and I’m calmed. I relax because Maayan is relaxed and I no longer have to stop to smell the flowers – because I’ve stopped.

The truth is that we have a lot more time than we realize. Maybe we should stop paying so much attention to the time and everything that reminds us of it. Maybe we should live more like toddlers and have all the time in the world.

Life lesson of a toddler #30: There is no need to rush, you have all the time in the world.

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Star of the week

When I dropped Maayan off at preschool today, her wonderful and amazing teacher asked me, “do you know who is the star of the week?” Not sure what the whole concept was, my face said, “come again?”. So she said that Maayan was the star of the week – and Maayan was shining right next to me. I would even go as far to say that Maayan was twinkling like a little star – but really she was a big shining star!

If you’re wondering what this is all about, I’ll explain. On one of the walls in the room is a big colorful board that has on it a picture of the star of the week. All the toddlers in the class put something nice to say about the star of the week. They sign their names to confirm that indeed these are their opinions. Contracts are written up, lawyers are brought in, lots of drama…oh wait, no, that never happens with toddlers.

While adults seem to be big on the concept of critique and having opinions of others, toddlers are big on saying nice things about other people. “He wears colorful socks” or “she was nice to me when I was feeling sad”, “she’s my best friend” or even, “I don’t know”. Hey, the effort counts.

The point is that in the adult world there is a big value of doing the opposite than having a star of the week. Every magazine cover, news report and check out line at the super market is filled with critiques of other people. I say, live like a toddler and let’s say simple things like, “they look nice” or “they share”. Let’s see magazine covers about people who talk nicely, make people happy and wear colorful socks.

I think every office of every organization should have a star of the week. Have a big colorful board with a picture of anyone in the organization with everyone else saying nice things about them. I guarantee that if organizations of any kind would all start doing that, the atmosphere of the workplace would skyrocket with positive energy. And the star of the week would shine as brightly as Maayan.

Life lesson of a toddler #16: Have a star of the week in your home or office. Do so and everyone will be shining like 4 year olds.