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Snuggle Time

Recently, Maayan and I have been doing a lot of quality time snuggling & cuddling. With happy and loving eyes says to me, “Let’s snuggle.” How can a father say no?

Prior to going to sleep, in the afternoon or even when just waking up are all fantastic opportunities for snuggling. I told Maayan that she’s getting really good at snuggling. She said, “yeah“.

Snuggling is a very important activity for toddlers. It consists of hanging out, cuddling up, relaxing and enjoying your family.

Snuggling can be done at anytime of the day. Many people worry that they don’t have enough time in the day or that they should wait until they’re on vacation. That myth can be laid to rest my friends, because toddlers have proven time and again that snuggling and cuddling can be done at anytime of the day or week. All it takes is a few minutes.

Another misconception about snuggling is that you have to be a professional. I’ve often heard from adults who say that they don’t invest in snuggling because they’re not good at it or that it should be left for the professionals. Someone even said that snuggling is only for toddlers and cannot be done by adults. Once again, that is only a myth and is not based on any real evidence. In fact, all of the toddler’s research show that you don’t have to be a professional to snuggle. Anyone can do it. No matter what your level or age, you can snuggle and you will reap major benefits.

The proven method for most effectiveness is to just lie down next to your toddler or someone you love. Turn off all cell phones, computers and TV’s. Smile, relax and enjoy.

Life lesson of a toddler # 29: Cuddle up & Snuggle with someone you love today.

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Waking up in the morning

It’s not easy to get up in the morning. Hey, we’re just waking up, feeling heavy, a little dizzy, wanting another five minute of blissful sleep, where’s the coffee already!

This is all a daily occurrence for people – unless you’re a toddler.

There are a number of very inspiring ways how toddlers wake up. First of all (as long as they go to bed on time and sleep through the night) they wake up happy. Every morning, my wonderful daughters are just happy. Our 18 month old Yarden gives an initial cry, but that’s just to get out of the crib. Once out, it’s go time. And they’re all smiles.

This morning Yarden woke up earlier than usual, about an hour before Maayan around 6am. As soon as I picked Yarden up she smiled, looked at her sister and said, “Maya!”. That’s right, we’re happy to be up and we’re sharing the joy.

Maayan has also developed a little routine. Since the fall (when it’s still dark out at 7am in Halifax), she waits for the sky to turn colors. She wakes up by herself, turns on the lights in her room, puts her head back on the pillow and watches the colors change. “Look, it’s changing colors”, she says. As soon as it’s bright enough, she gets up and says, “It’s day time now”.

Happy. Relaxed. Enjoying the beautiful sky. Soaking it in. Saying hi to anyone in the room. This is how a toddler begins their day.

Adults have a thing or two to learn from toddlers. Too many adults wake up like the world is on fire. Rush out of bed, throw down the caffeine, worry about work.

I think too many adults wake up like chickens with their heads cut off, while toddlers seem to be gracious little Queens of an empire.

While it’s true that thank God many adults wake up early, exercise, take time to themselves before they give it to others, we’re waiting for it to go viral. It is so crucial to begin one’s day happy and relaxed, giving some serious quality time to yourself.

Imagine how different everyone’s day would be if they began it by waking up a little earlier (which also means going to sleep earlier), going for a walk outside, focusing on the amazing blessings of our lives, thinking about our goals, our dreams and how we can make it happen today.

Instead of waking up in a craze and daze, let’s wake up early with joy & gratitude. A colorful sky can do wonders to a person who loses themselves in the grandeur and the beauty. Soaking the blessings in. With that, we’ll be living a totally inspired and amazing life because we’ll be living like a toddler.

Life lesson of a toddler #26: Go to bed early & wake up early. Wake up with joy & gratitude. Go outside and appreciate the brilliant & colorful sky in the morning.

Small pieces

Have you ever paid attention to adults when they eat? Of course everyone is different, but in general, it’s not a pretty sight. Not that it’s an ugly one God forbid, but it’s just not something you enjoy watching. I can’t put my finger on it, but watching adults eat food is not always an experience you’re looking for.

 

The opposite is true with toddlers: it’s pure pleasure to watch them eat! They eat so slowly, they chew each bite with such precision and effort. They enjoy it. They don’t gulp it down, swallow it whole or rush the meal. They eat with such royal grace, dignity and ease.

 

Another important thing is the size. Everything is in small pieces. Today I made cheese sandwiches for lunch. For Maayan, who is already 4, I gave her two full slices. For Yarden, who is 18 months old, I cut it into very small pieces. Those little pieces are eaten with ease, calm & comfort. One at a time, there’s no rush, no hurry, nowhere to go. They’re in the moment and enjoying it to its’ fullest.

 

If you have some time, I would suggest studying toddlers as they eat. Notice the patterns, the motions, the grace. Pay attention to how long it takes and how little they eat. Make sure you’re aware of how different it is from how adults eat. Enjoy it, love it, eat it up. But know that you can be like them too.

 

Life lesson of a toddler #25: Cut up your food into small pieces & eat slowly to enjoy every bite.

Sing a song & make your body happy

Driving home yesterday, Maayan began to sing a song. Although it had rhythm and rhyme, the words were not too familiar to me. I asked Maayan if it was from preschool, and it was not.

 

When we got out of the car, Maayan said to me, “Singing makes my whole body happy.” To which Maayan then slowly walked on the snow, dancing in her footsteps and singing the entire time.

 

Isn’t it so true? When we sing, it isn’t just our mouth that sings. We use our hands, we dance a little and ultimately our whole self feels it. We just feel better!

 

It’s a very powerful thing to sing. It is putting emotion into our words. If a person is happy, their words sound like a major. If a person is upset, their words are like a minor. If a person is really excited, the words make you feel excited. If a person says “Hello” but really wants to say, “I hate you” – we’ll feel it. And if a person says, “I am so upset” but is really calm and happy, we’ll feel it as well. We’re always singing because our whole body is doing it.

 

If we were to sing a happy song, we’ll become happy. If we listen to a totally energetic song, it will give us that energy. The more we sing, the more we feel that song. Why? Because it makes our whole body happy!

 

Life lesson of a toddler #20: Sing songs throughout the day, even make up your own. Your body will thank you.

 

Bath Time

Part of the best time of the day for a toddler is bath time. Time to unwind after a day of hard work in some warm water and bubbles. Only the finest soaps from Johnson & Johnson, some yellow ducks, various toys and some time to yourself. Hold the scotch.

 

Bath time is not a time to be skipped or rushed. Bath time is the essential ingredient in the toddlers’ healthy lifestyle. It’s a time to sing, to think, to play, to relax. The step right before bed time, sleep is that much sweeter and deeper after a good bath.

 

This is so popular amongst toddlers that many adults have even caught on. A good many adults opt for the bath over the shower. Whether it be during a vacation, at a hotel or even in one’s home, more and more adults are adapting to the bath; but we need more of them. Congress should be pushing this.

 

It is not about bath vs. shower, because we’re not just talking about taking a bath. It’s bath time. It is not the bath that makes the toddlers’ life so enviable, but the time they enjoy while bathing.

 

Adults shower, but quickly. You hear adults say such things as, “I’ll jump in the shower” or “Let me just run to the shower”. Experts in the field say that “jumping” and “running” are not a recommended activity to do in the shower.

 

Taking time to yourself is extremely important. It is something very rare for many adults. A solid remedy for this is to ensure you have “bath time” everyday. Bring some of your favourite toys, put on music, let your mind go. Focus on the bubbles, the warmth, the time to yourself. Johnson and Johnson soap adds a really special effect: you’ll even smell like a toddler.

 

 

Life lesson of a toddler #18: Take time for yourself and enjoy a long hot bath. It will add depth to your sleep and years to your life.

 

Don’t worry, it’s ok

The other day at Maayan’s birthday party was the following incident with a few of her friends. Maayan was drawing with her friend while another boy was a little upset about something. Not sure what it was, but he wasn’t happy. As Maayan was drawing she calmly said to the boy, “don’t worry, it’s ok“. The boy said back, “no it’s not!” To which Maayan confirmed, “no, it’s ok. Don’t worry.”

Then they kept on playing.

I didn’t know what was going on, maybe Maayan did. Not too many details were clear for anyone at this point. What was clear though was the reassurance that everything will be ok. Hey, if a 4 year old says it, it has to be true.

In all honesty, does a 4 year old really know that everything will be ok? Maybe it won’t! Whatever the reason this boy is upset – maybe it won’t be ok. Maybe the boy should dwell on what’s gone wrong. Maybe the boy should put all his energy and focus on how bad everything is, how “not ok” everything is. After all, if adults do it…

For a 4 year old, they might not have an 8 ball or a crystal ball, but intuitively they know everything will be ok. Most children from the time they are a baby until they’re even past the toddler stage are able to quickly forget about something bad. If something upset them, in a healthy environment, chances are they’ll be over it soon enough.

Toddlers are able to change perspectives very quickly. They are able to switch focus almost instantaneously. It is a rare quality for adults to do though. Adults are very fond of circular thinking, dwelling and playing rerun on a host of negative experiences. Go into most therapists offices and you’ll hear tons of dwelling and over focus on the negative.

Maybe all we need is a toddler to tell us not to worry and that it’s ok. Not that it will be ok, but that it is ok. If a toddler can figure out how to switch a negative lens to a positive focus, I’m sure intelligent adults can figure out a way as well. Maybe all we need to do is listen to our inner toddler telling us not to worry, it’s ok. You know what? The more we do, the more our brains will be able to see it.

Life lesson of a toddler #17: Really and truly – don’t worry, it is all ok. Move on, move forward, and keep on playing!